Many public schools continue to cane
children in Africa. This mirrors what is taken place in our homes.
One of the things I know for sure is that
spanking children as punishment is not just and not the ideal form of
discipline.
When I think about why my mother would
occasionally spank us, I realized 2 things. The first is that throwing her hand
or finally asking for a belt exemplified her exasperation with the problem at
hand. Her frustration level had risen so high that words had failed common sense.
In addition, there was either not enough time or patience to correct the issue.
In one occasion I remember my mother
throwing her hand because I had failed to not clean a dish well. But to my
defense I was never taught how to wash dishes. I was just basically told that a
child my age should just know how. There were no tutorials. Or I remember the
many times I was chastised for not brushing my teeth well. But no one ever
taught how to properly brush your teeth. And ironing, you guessed it, no
lessons.
Children need our patience; we do not
come with manuals. We were all children. Treat children the same way you wished
adults treated you as a child. We must understand children learn what we teach
them. Yes some children are more stubborn than others but that just means we
have to be more creative and patient in teaching them.
I know there are times that you can teach
a child ten times not to slam the door, but like my children they continue to
slam it as they forget what you said minutes ago. But the good news is the children’s
forgetfulness and irritation in your eyes, mirrors how God sees us for the many
different petty things we do. For as you see your children; God sees you.
Instead of finding ways to knock that
child down, ask yourself would I want God react to me with similar fury? Would
I want my mistakes to be seen through love and kindness? When you stop and ask
those questions a smile will come to your face as you continue to remind your
children to treat the door with more patience. I know I do because God’s mercy
has allowed me to show mercy to all even small children slamming doors in our
rented home.
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