Research confirms that women are more
powerful than they know. However, what they fail to mention is that women’s
power is intrinsically tied to their role as mothers. Women’s empowerment is not confined to the
school buildings or high end offices. Their power lies in the most basic form…taking
their role as mothers seriously and actually mothering, raising and caring for
their boy children as they do for their girls. The slogan to free and empower
women tomorrow can only be realized if women raise their boys today.
Homeschooling has taught me a lot. And what
I recently learned is that when parents provide their children with the time
and energy to raise them, your children will become exactly what you raised. If
you put time and energy in providing materials for your children, they will
grow to become people who value materials. It’s that simple. All the ancients
said it. An African proverb states “kasava leaves cannot grow from the plantain
tree.” This means that your children cannot bear fruits which you did not plant
and nurture within them. Women cannot be free tomorrow if no one is making sure
not to create potential tormentors today.
The old adage that women are their worst
enemies is true in this context. We can either raise children who will respect
and listen to us tomorrow, or leave them to persecute us tomorrow. By not
raising our boys, we endanger the lives of other women around the world. Rape
is the most common form of violence against women during turbulence.
It might seem anti modern or Western for a
woman to applaud motherhood above a career, but this framework obviously has not
helped the world. Let’s take a look at all the violence we are seeing: young
boys ganging up to rape young girls on trains in India, boys beating and
killing elders in their communities in Congo and other parts of Africa. And the
list goes on. Who raised those boys?
What seeds were planted in those boys? I know from personal experience that no
seeds were nurtured in my brothers. This is why they are all one bad move away
from a prison sentence today. But they are not alone, that is why from America
to Zimbabwe, the topic of boys causing violence is gaining attention. But the
solution is not in providing them employment and getting them off the streets. The
solution is in mothering.
Women, as mothers hold the key to not only transforming
the future, but the people who make up our futures. In the hands of mothers,
children learn how to be human beings. They learn how to treat others, how to
be independent and the rules of right and wrong. However, Ghanaian women, like
many women around the world, have been misled into believing that motherhood
can be done by a Creche, a school or society. That they are not as pivotal as
the Ancients stated. That women are mere carriers and not king makers. Let’s
take a cue from the Asantehemaa. The king she chooses is the one who will
listen, respect and always remember who made him. We are having children but
not raising them to remember from where they came. No one is teaching our boys how to be human beings.
Who is raising the boys? Who teach them how
to be independent? Who teach them right from wrong? Or how to live with others?
Apparently no one is. We know this because during the time of every election in
Ghana, politicians feel the need to talk to “boys” about not causing riots and
violence. Why are they only speaking to the boys and not girls? Because they
know, as we know, that boys are left to raise themselves. They are left to
basically kill themselves and others if need be.
Women need to take back motherhood. We need
to take it seriously. It’s the greatest job we have. To raise children who will
become responsible and decent global citizens tomorrow. We do this by providing
our children time to be with us. To watch us and to learn from us. But we need
to realize that we have a valuable job. We need to know that our job today
shapes the world tomorrow. For each child who is left to be raised by “society”
we can add another potential rapist, murderer, or criminal to the list.
Children cannot be left to be raised by
others. We know that. The lesson we are learning is that no one is raising our
boys so they are causing havoc. It’s a cry for help like all tantrums.
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